Someone wrote me that he suspected he may have worthiness issues. I don’t suspect so. I know so.
He wrote that he had a dichotomy of extreme arrogance on one hand with a towering self-esteem, but on the other he has settled for a life of scraps. He said, “For me, defending the idea of my priceless worth IS a hill to die on - and I think I would defend the idea to the death, but instead of living on that hill, I live on a scrap heap! I'd defend it against any attacker, but I haven't defended it against myself - I have settled for less.”
And that is the issue. We may think we believe something (like we are worthy), but what do our actions say?
One thing I learned in therapy was that what we say about something is secondary to our actions. The actions tell the real truth. Like a lot of us, this person has defended his worthiness against attack from others, but not from the real enemy within - himself.
He is a lot like most people who attend my programs. He believes he is worthy, but is a little nervous and has some self-doubt. That's okay. When you fight through the fear there is greatness on the other side.
I suggested that he read one of my prosperity books every week for at least two months, build his Prosperity Manifestation Map and write a movie script of his perfect day. It also helps if you find a prosperous thinking buddy and partner up. If you give yourself positive programming to counteract the fear, you will continue to move forward, get some success, and then build on that success.
Awareness of the issue is the big breakthrough. I believe once you’ve done that, you’re 80% home. Which is where I think he is.
So what about YOU? Where are you at in all this?