Last post we looked at how you choose the people in your life. It’s a polarizing question. Normally I post in the morning but since I was flying home from London it didn’t get up until 3 pm. Yet there were about 2,000 hits and a bunch of comments within less than an hour.
At some point, you may realize that the people around you are holding you back. And you may also realize that they actually don’t want you to succeed. They consciously and or subconsciously will be rooting for you to fail at new endeavors, because it reveals their lack of ambition, drive and vision.
They ridicule your aspirations and predict certain failure for attempting anything so foolish. They do this because they are your “friends.”
You need friends like this, like you need a screen door in a 747. You’ve got to detach from these people as rapidly as possible. For the most part, you usually do this gradually. You stop inviting them places, and you start accepting their invitations less frequently. You both start to notice it isn’t as much fun to hang out with each other, and you begin to curtail the time you spend with each other.
You just slowly drift apart. Others, however, call for more drastic action…
Those are the seriously toxic people who are actively working to hold you back. By them, I mean the ones who ridicule or actively sabotage you. These people need to be called out.
I have told people like this things like, “I love you and want the best for you, but I cannot afford to be around you. You are negative, and expect the worst. This viewpoint colors everything you say and do, and I don’t want to be infected by your attitude any longer.”
And I move on and replace them with people who bring more to my life, and I to theirs. As you can see by the comments yesterday, a lot of you do this as well. But where do you go from there?
Do you work to attract better people in your life? What are some of the ways you attract more positive people. Please share your thoughts below, and we’ll pick up there on the next post.