What do you have to do, to release the victim mentality forever? It’s a very intriguing question.
Because everyone would say that they are interested in losing the victim mentality. Everyone. But that wouldn’t be the truth.
As we talked about last week, we often hold on to, or manifest new challenges because it takes off pressure to perform. And this type of lack thinking can show up in many areas of your life...
I remember when I had a “bad back.” Whenever I started a new relationship, the pattern was the same. I would wake up, start to get out of bed, and hold my lower back. My partner would ask something like, “What’s the matter? Your back bothering you?”
“Yeah,” I’d reply, “I’ve got a bad back.” That would then start the discussion about ice packs, massages, hot tubs, surgery, and all the other treatments for back trouble. And I would affirm and own my “bad back” for the term of that relationship.
But what was it really?
It was my response to the emotional development I had at the time. Namely an inability to give or receive love. Like most of the people in my family, I didn’t hug, express affection, or say ‘I love you’ very much. After four years of therapy, I noticed something funny...
Once I developed the ability to express and accept love – I didn’t have a bad back anymore! And I came to realize that I had manifested a bad back and some other health challenges because that’s how I got attention and affection. What I perceived as love.
Any parallels in your life? Give it some thought and share your thoughts below. Look for any psychic payoffs that you receive when you are in victim mode. Then tomorrow we’ll look at some of the tangible changes you have to make in your day-to-day life to lose this kind of victim mindset forever.