So how do we really let go of lack? And break patterns that have often been practiced over our entire lifetime?
Well it’s not easy. Oops, let’s not affirm that. I meant to say, ‘It’s easy!’
Ok, enough cute stuff. The reality is, when you are doing the victim thing, as I was, you probably have a very large investment in remaining a victim. And there are probably dozens of little things you do every day to maintain that status.
Let’s take being sick as an example. As you know, this was an issue for me. In my case, I was manifesting sickness to get attention, affection, and what I perceived as love. So how does that play out on a daily basis?
Well you probably have four or five people who, whenever they see you, look concerned and ask about your condition. Every time this happens, you get another chance to be a victim.
You may be on medication that allows you to think about your condition three times more a day. You have daily routines, little things you do that are about being sick.
And don’t get me started about handicapped parking decals, walkers, wheelchairs and other things like that!
“Now wait a minute,” you say. “Surely you are not inferring that I can just throw away my wheelchair, braces, or medication?”
No I’m not saying that, simply because I don’t need a lawsuits! However...
How many people ask for wheelchairs at the airport, but could really do without them? What kind of subconscious programming are they doing to themselves? What about all those people that beg their doctor to write a letter that allows them to get a handicapped parking decal? What’s the message they’re sending themselves?
I do know that all these things can keep you sick, and being a victim. And I know that sometimes we need them. The real question is when do we REALLY need them, and when are they actually keeping us sick?
I have a friend with boxes of Kleenex in every room of her house because she has sinus problems. Which begets the question: Does she have the Kleenex everywhere because she has sinus problems, or does she have sinus problems because she has the Kleenex everywhere?
I see something like this in my softball leagues a lot. A guy will slide into a base and hurt his knee. Next week he is wearing a brace. The week after he has “a bad knee.” Now the real question is, “Do he have a bad knee – or does a bad knee have him?”
Think about it and please check in below. Especially thinking how this applies to YOU!