As I coach people, one thing comes up again and again. Their lives are messy and it’s driving them nuts. They’re desperate to get on “the path” – the linear, predictable steady ascent that ends up on the summit of happiness and success. They see their friends on Instagram always at swanky restaurants, Ibiza, or Burning Man and feel small and insignificant by comparison. The breaking news I have for them involves two deep truths: