Most people spend their life searching for answers. But I find that searching for better questions produces much better results. The only caveat is that if you ask the wrong question, the answer is irrelevant. Or even misleading.
Perhaps the best results come when you ask questions of self-discovery. Not tepid cliché questions, but radical self-inquiry. This type of question moves the focus from external factors to internal ones. External focus is designed for you to escape responsibility, play victim, and blame others. I know this well, because I did it for almost 30 years. Mistake after mistake, failure after failure, setback after setback, I blamed my ex, my partners, the economy, fate, destiny and bad luck. The right question for me turned out to be:
“Is there one person who was always at the scene of the crime?”
When I went into that radical self-inquiry and honestly asked – and answered – that question, everything changed. Because then the focus turned internal. Into what I needed to change, to become the person I wanted to be, and live the life I desired to live.
The right question blows us your “story,” the victim narrative you’ve created to avoid facing reality and personal accountability. So that leads us to the most fascinating question yet. Which is…
What is the question you need to be asking yourself?