One of our best players on my softball team showed up late for the game. As usual. He came in 15 minutes after it started, and sat in the bench until the coach put him in during the fourth inning. As he went out, I said, “Guillermo, you need to really stretch out, so you don’t pull anything.”
The next inning, he pulled a muscle in his leg. He came to me later and said, “You know you jinxed me when you said that, because now I pulled a muscle.”
What happened here?
He wants to make pulling the muscle my fault. Instead of talking personal responsibility and admitting that he hadn’t even practiced or played in five weeks, he didn’t show up in time for warm-ups, and just went out cold off the bench. Because it’s always nicer to say things are someone else’s fault. Because that lets us be the innocent victim.
If you take personal responsibility for the bad things that happened to you, then you can’t live in victim-hood. And if you can’t live there, you’re free to be a victor!