Have you ever noticed that the fear of an event is often worse than the actual event? In the past, I’ve dreaded going to the dentist for about three weeks before the appointment. That’s because I had a horrendous dentist when I was a kid.
Many years ago I found a great dentist in Miami, and most visits actually go quite well. I wouldn’t rank them at the top of my social calendar, but they are actually pretty discomfort free. Yet I realized that I was still holding on to dread and fear of an appointment, because I was living in the past. But when I really did some critical thinking about it, I realized that I really have no rational reason for fear.
Many salespeople and network marketers suffer from fear of rejection syndrome. They are so afraid of being rejected, they never actual make a prospecting call. They are not alone. Many speakers consultants and other professionals have the same fear. What’s the reality here?
Most times you don’t get rejected. Even when you experience rejection, most times the person rejecting you feels worse than you do! They are stuttering and stammering, trying to find a way to tell you they are not interested, and do it in a way that won’t hurt your feelings.
Almost all the time, your fear is worse than the actual reality. We also know that sometimes, fear is good.
Fear can cause us to take action that protects us from impending danger. When I race my Viper, I believe that the underlying fear I have keeps me alive. I experienced the same fear when I flew an airplane. There was just enough fear to cause me to be careful, weigh my decisions, and take appropriate safety precautions.
So can we agree on two things?
Number one, that most fear is unwarranted. And secondly that fear can be good for us. So how about you reposition you beliefs about fear? Think about that and we’ll pick up there on the next post.
P.S. I’m not posting much this week, because I’m doing some R&R in Australia. Tomorrow I’ll be diving the Great Barrier Reef, so I’ll check in on the other side.