I’m the happiest person I know. How many people can actually say that? And how many might describe themselves as the unhappiest person they know? So just how do we manifest happiness?
For most people, it will take a dramatic shift in their mindset and core foundational beliefs...
It often means developing a life purpose for the first time, or replacing the one you have right now. And that may mean you have to dramatically alter the view you have of yourself, and your role in this world. If you’re like the herd, you define yourself by your roles (husband, engineer, symphony board member, etc.), and you view your purpose through the eyes of providing for others, and contributing to the greater good.
Which is absolute insanity. Really.
If you define yourself by your roles (Roger’s wife, Nancy’s son, Becky’s husband), then you lose your personal identity. Which creates low self-esteem and worthiness issues.
If you see your main purpose in life as serving others, you’re probably personally responsible for the founding of at least three Co-dependents Anonymous chapters. Let me go on the record and say, if your main purpose in life is to “serve others” – you have an extremely low opinion of yourself, don’t believe you are worthy, and will experience a tremendous amount of lack and limitation in your life.
And if you tell me that your only purpose here on earth is to “serve God,” I think you’re crazier than those whacked out televangelists on late night TV.
Now some of you will probably dismiss me as a materialistic heathen who’s going to rot and burn in Hell with gnashing of teeth. You might reply with something like, “I don’t care about money and material things. I am happy to live in a hut in the rain forest and enlighten the savages about Christianity. I am doing God’s work, and I will be rewarded in the afterlife.”
Now if that makes you happy, I’m happy for you. I think you’re nuts, but my approval is not required. But I don’t think a life like this will really make anyone very happy. In fact, I would almost bet that a person living like this is riddled with guilt and worthiness issues, and desperately seeking escape and redemption through the lives of others.
I think they’d be a whole lot happier – and the world would be a whole lot better – if they were more selfish. Which is where we’ll pick up on the next post. Until then, please check in with your thoughts.