I remember getting ready to leave for school one day. My mom eyed me up and said, "You can’t wear white after Labor Day." When I wanted to know the source or rationale for this decree, my poor, flummoxed mother didn't have an answer. People in the Midwest just follow these habits and customs; no one ever asks why.
Like me, you have formative experiences, a certain environment you were raised in, and hundreds if not thousands of mind viruses and foundational beliefs you get programmed with. And all of those influences lead you to a certain result, a certain kind of life you are meant to live.
Until you decide that you aren’t...
The path most people take follows the advice they frequently get. This could best be summed up as, “Before you tell your life what you intend to do with it, you should first listen to what it intends to do with you.” That’s probably not bad advice, to first ascertain the path life is leading you. But it’s usually horrible advice to blindly accept that path. You have to know what values mean something to you. You have to live your truth, not anyone else’s.
The path laid out for 'the future me' was clear. I would eat clam chowder and fish fry every Friday night, become a Green Bay Packer fan, and work the assembly line at the GM plant in Janesville. But I hate winter, clams, and ugly uniforms.
So I killed that guy. And created the me I really wanted to be.
I traded 60 below zero windchill factors for palm trees, fish frys at the Elks lodge for arroz con pollo on South Beach, and a North Face down jacket for a white linen suit from Hugo Boss. Instead of toiling on the assembly line making Chevys, I chose writing books and blog posts for people like you.
You’ve entered a unique place, when you stop by here. The best way to describe this space is an abode for consciousness. The people who visit this blog regularly are conscious. Conscious of who they are, and most importantly, who they can become.
You probably hang with other people of consciousness and may even take that for granted, believing most people, or even everyone thinks this way. They don’t. You’re actually in a pretty tiny subset of the population.
Unfortunately that doesn’t give you a lot of people to model, or a conventional path to follow for achieving your goals. So when I get a chance to get in your grill and cause you to question something about your life, I relish the opportunity. This is one of those times.
The path already laid out for you may show you that you’ll drive a Lexus, have a summer home on the lake, and become a successful dentist like your father. And if that path feels right for you, by all means savor the journey.
But before you blindly go down the path the world has in store for you – you may want to do some serious critical thinking if that path will take you to becoming the person you truly want to be.