I had a very short career on my Condo Board. But it was a Ph.D. education in how people handle other people who think differently than they do.
During the short time I have lived in that Condo there were serious rifts about handling some repair issues, parking spaces, and the annual budget. When I felt an issue was important to my property value or quality of life, I would strongly argue my case.
I noticed an interesting scenario happening…
Sometimes when I was on the other side of an issue from someone, they didn’t like me anymore. People who had been friendly neighbors, suddenly looked the other way in the parking lot. Or looked down in the elevator.
Since I had always liked them before, I still liked them then. So I would cheerfully say hello and greet them whenever I saw them. But it was different for a few of them. Because I didn’t agree with them on the assessment, the repairs, or some other issue, I was now the enemy. I saw a similar response from a guy on the Board of my softball association.
Does the way you treat people change because they have a different opinion on an issue than you? Can you disagree on something with someone and still be friends? Or does the fact that someone has a different religious or political belief system from you cause you to judge them, distrust them or stop liking them?