Predictably, the last post rankled some, shocked others and gave some serious food for thought. And I’ll admit to using some language designed to create exactly those reactions. Because it’s an important issue that creates a lot of problems, for millions of people.
Of course I hope you help the less fortunate, have compassion for others, and serve the greater good. But when you spend so much time trying to make other people happy that you neglect your own happiness, you’re on a very slippery slope. Or more specifically, when you’re trying to supply everyone else’s’ needs and neglect your own.
Certainly a parent will sometimes (read that as oftentimes!) make sacrifices for their children. And you’ll do the same thing from time to time for someone you love. But if you continually subjugate your own needs for others, that is certainly depravity.
Don’t ever give up on your own dreams for someone else. There is nothing noble, spiritual or good about that. And someone that truly loves you would never ask you to do that.
For you guys that haven’t read, The Virtue of Selfishness, you’re at a serious disadvantage here and may not be able to discuss this at the intellectual level required. Because we’re actually dealing with much bigger issues here than “being good” or “serving others.” Or (pun intended) God forbid, “serving God.”
What we’re really talking about here, is co-dependency, worthiness issues, and more importantly, living your life by a congruent philosophy.
I’m selfish. And I hope you are too. So here’s the real question for you: If everyone were selfish, what kind of world would this be? Please check in with your thoughts below, and we’ll pick up there on the next post.