Most of us fall prey to dysfunctional patterns at some point or another in our lives. We repeat negative relationships with different partners, move from one addiction to another, or simply hold onto limiting beliefs about our worthiness or abilities – that prevent us from achieving our best potential.
And until you break this negative cycle, it is destined to keep repeating itself.
The first step is an honest acknowledgment that you have a problem. Self-knowledge is the most important step in self-correction.
The next step is discovering the “why.” Meaning to discover what is causing you to take that behavior. This is a process of critical thinking and questioning premises you may hold dear. (Or not even know you have.)
Why do you feel unworthy and have an inferiority complex? Why do you subconsciously seek out partners that practice abusive behavior again? Why do you self-sabotage your own advancement?
There are reasons that cause you to act the way you do...
Did you have a person of influence that always told you that you weren’t good enough? Did you learn negative relationship behavior from your parents? Were you brainwashed by a religion to believe you are not meant to be happy on this existence? Discovering the cause of negative behavior is a huge step towards changing it to a better result.
Over the years you have developed core, foundational beliefs...
Beliefs such as money is bad, rich people are evil, or it’s spiritual to be poor. Or it could be beliefs like you have to be a bad parent to be successful, or your business has to exploit others to be profitable. And like causes of behavior, recognizing a limiting belief is the first step to changing it.
Once you discover a limiting belief – you can blow it up, and replace it with an empowering one!
So how you doing on that?
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