It sure feels good to be a victim. Or at least we sometimes think it does…
I see this often when counseling people on prosperity. They start the discussion by suggesting that they’re looking to learn what will help them live a life of prosperity. They want to know what they can do to create a breakthrough. Usually they will swear their fierce determination to do whatever it takes.
Until I tell them…
That’s when the argument starts. Because when I tell them they need to release the bitter feelings they are holding against someone or something – they start making the case of how victimized they were, trying to make me understand and come around to their way of thinking.
They want to replay their custody case, divorce agreement, or duplicitous business partner blow-by-blow, to rally me to see the grievous injustice they have endured.
Like a bulldog with a bone, they simply won’t let go.
But you have to let it go. You have to forgive, and move on. You have to figure out what YOU did to cause this, or what lesson YOU are meant to learn from the situation.
Your peace and prosperity have nothing to do with the person or institution that harmed you. It has to do with what you learned from the lesson and how you choose to respond moving forward.
Now if you’re like most people, you’re reading this and already mitigating how this doesn't apply to you…
You’re validating and justifying how horrific the treatment you received was – and how naive and insensitive I am not to understand this. You want to point out how mean, or how evil, or how unjust your victimizer was. But remember, this has nothing to do with them. It’s all about you…
You can be a victim. Or you can be a victor. But you can’t be both.
What are you choosing?
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