The biggest issue for me in the need to feel guilty, and consequently to make others feel guilty.
Guilty of not taking the steps required to live the life I deserve, guilty of not making the phone call, guilty of not making the move and express my love and abundance...
Which creates remorse. Which creates anger. And it feeds the cycle.
Then I remember that I can love myself. I deserve it. And the heart oppens consequently and I start to love.
This pattern doen't allow me to even live the great successes I've had, because I feel guilty for other people...
This is what I'm releasing into love, compassion and joy.
The biggest issue for me in the need to feel guilty, and consequently to make others feel guilty.
Guilty of not taking the steps required to live the life I deserve, guilty of not making the phone call, guilty of not making the move and express my love and abundance...
Which creates remorse. Which creates anger. And it feeds the cycle.
Then I remember that I can love myself. I deserve it. And the heart oppens consequently and I start to love.
This pattern doen't allow me to even live the great successes I've had, because I feel guilty for other people...
This is what I'm releasing into love, compassion and joy.
Reason?
Basically, to feel important, significant and worthy of love.
KH
It is true that until you identify the real reasons, you cannot change your behavior. Also you can only change other people by changing and controlling the way you react to them!
"we don't have friends, we don't have enemies, we all meet only teachers...."
Randy, after I left my husband I spent months evaluating how I ended up in a relationship as bad as ours was to begin with.
As shitty as a person as he was to me, he was just being 'him'.
What was more important was taking responsibility for MY part and continuing to dance in the relationship with him.
I now recognize that in all situations, if I choose to stay in it, there's something I'm getting FROM it. Healthy or not.
I'm SO VERY grateful that these days, I am able to step back and say, 'what am I getting from this? What is it feeding?', and go from there.
In Gratitude,
Jhanna Dawson
Randy,
This sooooo used to be me! Just two days ago,I caught myself in church, of all places, picking on my brother for wearing sunglasses on his head! Or my friend because she's always cold. The good news is, that as soon as I did it, there was a prickly feeling in my heart and I knew what I was doing was wrong, uncalled for and mean. To them and ME.
It is the vestige of a destructive, inherited habit. I am also in the process of stopping/deflecting the unnecessary criticism coming in my direction. Unfortunately, it is my husband doing the "picking". I politely ask him to stop being critical or stop the conversation all together. If that doesn't work, I leave the room.
Wow, what a great feeling!
"Are you one of the people who constantly make big issues out of little things? " No, I am pretty easy going. It wouldn't bother me if someone squeezed the toothpaste from the bottom of the tube 🙂
"Are your relationships roller coaster rides of breathtaking highs and desperate lows? Have you ever given thought to the real reason for this?"
no...I am not on a relationship roller coaster ride. A big thing that isn't small stuff can't be ignored though.
I really like stability so putting myself in some temporary chaos is not easy. A place to live, a gym to workout in & eating healthy helps.
Fear of being insignificant and to cover my own shortcomings.
You are Not Alone and You will Reach all the Success you Deserve, just let Go! It will in time come Naturally!
All the Best and never forget You Are Never Alone!
Cya,
Rock
I start a fight so I can be seen and to feel important.
and be Right.
There are a couple of books who help me deal with my self-sabotage beliefs. They are both by Debbie Ford,"The Dark Side of the Light Chasers and Why Good People Do Bad Things."
Those are two great questions for us all to ask ourselves.
-RG
Some times the expecting things are not soon coming.It is it?