As most of you know, I’m in Maui, conducting a leadership retreat this week. And there’s a disturbing pattern I’m hearing over and over again, in relation to health and wellness…
There seems to be two main schools of thought:
School number one is the largest group. It’s all the people who cheated on their diet and exercise programs over the holidays and are now trying to catch up on the backtracking they experienced.
School two is the group of people who cheated on their diet and exercise programs over the holidays and are now validating to continue cheating because they’re at a beautiful tropical resort. And I might also add, there seems to be people from the first group slowly migrating into the second group.
What is wrong with this picture?
And I don’t ask the question facetiously. I want you to really consider the deeper ramifications it means for most people’s core belief systems.
I took a two-week vacation and came home weighing one pound less than when I left. I ended the holidays two pounds less than I started them. Here’s the reason why – and the important questions I think it raises…
While I was on vacation I was thinking that since I wasn’t working and had all day every day to relax, it would be a great opportunity to double my usual workout. I saw it as an opportunity to get healthy, not an opportunity to get fat.
I enjoyed the holidays and attended the usual events and received the usual gift baskets of candies, pastries and goodies. Most of those I sampled a taste and immediately took them downstairs and offered them to the concierge, housekeepers and valet attendants. I appreciate that people think enough of me to send me that stuff, but I don’t believe that it is actually good for me to eat it all.
So here’s a question. Actually a few:
Why would I desire to eat a bunch of garbage, get fat and lose energy simply because it was my vacation? Or a holiday? And why would anyone???
One possibility: If someone has worthiness issues, they wouldn’t think they deserve good health and happiness, so they could sabotage themselves with unhealthy behavior.
Another possibility: They are one of the millions of people who watch five hours of television daily. If so, they are getting programmed with at least 30 minutes of both conscious and subliminal programming for beer, fast food, pizza and other bad choices. And they’re not counter-programming with enough positive programming to change their core beliefs about themselves.
Here’s the question I really want you to think about: Why would anyone desire to “cheat” on their diet, exercise or health program ever – whether birthday, holiday, vacation or whatever? What does that desire to cheat say about their core foundational beliefs about health, wellness and their own worthiness?
I think the answer is worth pursuing, because it also tells us why we smoke, do drugs and other dysfunctional behavior.
How much of this is peer pressure? Most people live pretty unhealthy lives and create social situations to get you to buy into it. No one wants to be the only one ordering desert. An alcoholic will almost demand you join them in a drink. Drug addicts want company.
And speaking of addiction, food can be a drug too. When you eat things with yeast, enriched flour, and sugar, your body physically craves those things more. I know if I keep chips, cookies and pastries around me, I usually end up eating them.
So what do you guys think? Please check in below with your thoughts.