There are a four things I do every New Year’s to set myself up for success the following year. Please allow me to share them with you, so you can adopt or adapt what may work for you.
The first thing is to conduct a Burning Bowl Ceremony. This allows me to let go of the limiting beliefs, poor choices, and wrong turns of the past year – and let them fade back into the nothingness from which they came. You release things that no longer serve you and replace them with things that do.
The burning bowl ceremony allows you let go of the things in yourself that are holding you back. I hope you’ll do the ceremony. And as you do your list of the things you wish to let go, remember this: The change you fight the most is usually the breakthrough you need the most.
The second thing I do is choose one word to summarize what I’m looking to do in the New Year. It’s not really about tactics or strategy, but the mindset I’m looking to create. It’s really about attitude.
To give you an idea, my word for 2013 was EPIC! And I really did have a year just like that. For 2014, I’m using EPIC as the beginning point, and looking to grow from there. So my word for the New Year is:
Now that word may not work for you, but it doesn’t have to. You can choose any word you want. But choose something. There is much power in words, and you’re looking for a word that your philosophy, attitude and mindset will spin off from.
It doesn’t have to mean anything to anyone except you. You don’t want a word that comforts you, but one that challenges you. A word you can tape up over your monitor that watches over you every day, and drives you to suck it up and try one more time, even when you're at an all-time low. A word that brooks no nonsense, takes no excuses, and refuses to buy into your bullshit.
The third thing I plan is my big failure for the New Year. Now I don’t know exactly what it will be, but I make a commitment to myself, that I will attempt so many daunting, challenging and amazing things – I am certain to have a major failure with at least one of them. I hope you will do the same.
Because if you’re not willing to fail, you’re not really willing to succeed. Failure means you have skin in the game. You took a risk. You did something that the 99 percent isn’t willing to do. Instead of watching other people live lives on TV and in the movies, you chose to actually go out and live your own.
Just as the walls that protect you from rejection also lock out love, the barriers you erect against failures will prevent you from reaching success.
It may be a corny cliché, but failing your way to success is a cliché because there is truth in it.
So when you fail in 2014, be proud of it. It means you’re a warrior, willing to fight the fight. Pick yourself up, learn the lessons it provided, and move on to the next step. And if you attract criticism, ridicule or even some haters – great, you know you’re on the right track. Successful people threaten mediocrity. Let me be the first person to wish you a great failure in 2014!
The fourth thing I think about every New Year is not resolutions, but resolve. As far as resolutions go, I’m not big on the symptom ones: quitting smoking, losing ten pounds, rubbing more rosary beads. I’m more interested in the big picture idea: How do I reinvent myself to become a better person? How do I become the person that makes healthy choices, wants to work out, and lives with Shibumi? How do I become more patient, wiser, more loving? How do I make a dent, make an impact, make a difference?
New Years isn’t really about one year ending and another beginning. Calendar dates are simply memes we created so we know when to meet each other at Starbucks. New Years is just like any other sunset: another blank page of your life that you get to author any way you want.
The goals that really matter aren’t really about a New Year, but a New You.
Instead of wondering what the New Year will bring you, do some critical thinking on what you will bring to the New Year.
So allow me be the first to wish you…
Happy New You!