Last post we discussed how your story can create an illusion that you eventually actualize into your life. And when that story is a negative, limiting belief, you essentially doom yourself to a self-fulfilling failure. The illusion becomes the reality.
So how do you prevent this?
Two actions are critical here. One we will look at now, and the second will be in tomorrow’s post.
The first action is doing the critical thinking to understand the psychic or emotional reward you’re getting from a negative story.
This may surprise you, because you’re thinking that you don’t want a limiting belief. But subconsciously, you actually might. Some examples to demonstrate what I mean…
Let’s take the very common story, “all the good guys are taken or gay.” When you sell yourself that story, you actually get psychic rewards for this. Because when you buy that story, you get to be a victim, have friends commiserate with you, milk it for sympathy, and you don’t have to take any responsibility for why you aren’t meeting any men.
This issue of being a victim and being able to regale your friends with all your stories of how you have been wronged, cheated, or denied something is insidious. I know, because I lived it for 30 years. I was a professional victim and I surrounded myself with friends who were also professional victims.
Every time we’d get together, we would amuse and delight each other with our troubled tales of woe. And you know what really pisses you off? When someone has a “better” tragedy than you do! When this happens, you subconsciously start working to create a cataclysmic event, which will win you more sympathy the next time.
These kind of emotional rewards are false. They aren’t really rewards; they are crippling your chances for health, success and wealth. So it’s really worth the effort and introspection to discover which false rewards you’re getting, and how they are actually harming you.
If you’re willing, please share what you work out in the comments below. And tomorrow we’ll explore the second thing you need to do...