I remember getting ready to leave for school one day. My mom eyed me up and said, "You can’t wear white after Labor Day." When I wanted to know the source or rationale for this decree, my poor, flummoxed mother didn't have an answer. People in the Midwest just follow these habits and customs; no one ever asks why.
Like me, you have formative experiences, a certain environment you were raised in, and hundreds if not thousands of mind viruses and foundational beliefs you get programmed with. And all of those influences lead you to a certain result, a certain kind of life you are meant to live.
Until you decide that you aren’t...
The path most people take follows the advice they frequently get. This could best be summed up as, “Before you tell your life what you intend to do with it, you should first listen to what it intends to do with you.” That’s probably not bad advice, to first ascertain the path life is leading you. But it’s usually horrible advice to blindly accept that path. You have to know what values mean something to you. You have to live your truth, not anyone else’s.
The path laid out for 'the future me' was clear. I would eat clam chowder and fish fry every Friday night, become a Green Bay Packer fan, and work the assembly line at the GM plant in Janesville. But I hate winter, clams, and ugly uniforms.
So I killed that guy. And created the me I really wanted to be.
I traded 60 below zero windchill factors for palm trees, fish frys at the Elks lodge for arroz con pollo on South Beach, and a North Face down jacket for a white linen suit from Hugo Boss. Instead of toiling on the assembly line making Chevys, I chose writing books and blog posts for people like you.
You’ve entered a unique place, when you stop by here. The best way to describe this space is an abode for consciousness. The people who visit this blog regularly are conscious. Conscious of who they are, and most importantly, who they can become.
You probably hang with other people of consciousness and may even take that for granted, believing most people, or even everyone thinks this way. They don’t. You’re actually in a pretty tiny subset of the population.
Unfortunately that doesn’t give you a lot of people to model, or a conventional path to follow for achieving your goals. So when I get a chance to get in your grill and cause you to question something about your life, I relish the opportunity. This is one of those times.
The path already laid out for you may show you that you’ll drive a Lexus, have a summer home on the lake, and become a successful dentist like your father. And if that path feels right for you, by all means savor the journey.
But before you blindly go down the path the world has in store for you – you may want to do some serious critical thinking if that path will take you to becoming the person you truly want to be.
Peace,
- RG
this is hardcore i love it. right on the cusp. coming back to DAILY! self development morning routines before work.
this identity topic keeps getting more impactful the more changes I make and the more repetition i put in.
I'd like to figure out how to get over my fear of financial success...when things start going my way, and the answers seem clear (at my job) i notice a little bit of that weird fear of losing the pursuit of this thing that ive so long sought after...and the anxiety of losing something to fight for.
hard to articulate the details but Im assuming mastering daily! what you talk about in Smart Healthy Rich will go a long way.
unwavering.
will give this post some thought.
The more we understand there's so much we DON'T KNOW, and really get that truth, the more willing we'll be to fall in love with truth. Let's get as conscious as we can! #Prosperity
Hi Randy, I was about 22 working for the nhs in east london (grim to say the least), my irish girlfriend (who I thought I was going to marry) dumped me, the house I was about to buy (well not buy just getting a mortgage) all fell through, life as I thought was a complete mess. Then one morning the wind blew through my ears and I was told to go and travel, reading this as a sign I quit my job, bought a one way ticket to australia, Mum had a fit...Well I did return to blighty about a year later totally transformed by the places I had been to and especially by the people I met.. I was scarred getting on that plane on my own, but those few seconds that morning changed my life forever, any regrets... being self employed has been tough at times... but on the whole life has been an amazing adventure.... Best Wishes as always... Graham uk
Love this story. Probably talk about the value of changing locations in a follow up post.