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Lying to Yourself

Posted By: Randy GageNovember 15, 2018

Everybody lies to themselves at some point.  Usually quite often.  Some people do it in a way that lowers their quality of life.  Others lie to themselves – but do it in a way that actually advances and empowers them.  Depending what kind of self-talk you practice, can dramatically impact your life. 

For example, some days I wake up feeling weak and tired.  But I lie to myself, because I immediately speak affirmations about feeling strong, healthy, and energetic.  When you do visualizations, and affirmations to yourself – you’re figuratively putting your finger on the scale – to influence your subconscious mind, to drive yourself to become better.

Other times we lie to ourselves and it hurts us.  We tell ourselves we’re stocky when we’re really clinically obese.  We write “family first” on our social media bios, but work so much our kids don’t recognize us.  We tell ourselves we don’t have an addiction when we do.  Or we project our issues onto those around us, and think they are the cause of all our problems.

So what kind of lies are you telling yourself?

- RG

7 comments on “Lying to Yourself”

  1. "But I lie to myself, because I immediately speak affirmations about feeling strong, healthy, and energetic." It is more like an order, than a lie.

    What about saying "I am worthy for prosperity", while you're not quiet sure on that? It is better to say, "I f@cking not worthy for prosperity, so something's wrong with me, but I find what it is and kill it.". It is better, or just keep saying "I am worthy for prosperity" until the subconscious mind is applying it?

    1. Daniel, sometimes I have the same challenge with an affirmation, especially when it seems like a big stretch from my current mindset.

      This is what works for me: I add the phrase "More and more" at the beginning, which seems to quiet the shame/worthiness gremlins.

      Using your affirmation it would become, "More and more I am worthy for prosperity."

      When you feel more assured that the affirmation will manifest (when it seems more truthful than pie-in-the-sky wishful), you can drop the "more and more" section.

      Does your intuition sense this idea will help?

      1. Daniel, I learned the "more and more" technique from Bellaruth Naparstek, a social worker and producer of guided imagery audio programs.

    2. I would never view an affirmation as an order, but an autosuggestion. The problem with affirmations like you suggest is there are speaking of the future. I find it works better to affirm things in the present tense, as though they are already done. That makes stronger programming for my subconscious mind.

      1. Agree with both Randy and Lynn here Daniel. Affirming something in the future tense suggests to your subconscious it will always be "in your future". Affirming in the present sends the message to the Universe, hence it has to happen - providing you take the action towards it as well.

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  • 7 comments on “Lying to Yourself”

    1. "But I lie to myself, because I immediately speak affirmations about feeling strong, healthy, and energetic." It is more like an order, than a lie.

      What about saying "I am worthy for prosperity", while you're not quiet sure on that? It is better to say, "I f@cking not worthy for prosperity, so something's wrong with me, but I find what it is and kill it.". It is better, or just keep saying "I am worthy for prosperity" until the subconscious mind is applying it?

      1. Daniel, sometimes I have the same challenge with an affirmation, especially when it seems like a big stretch from my current mindset.

        This is what works for me: I add the phrase "More and more" at the beginning, which seems to quiet the shame/worthiness gremlins.

        Using your affirmation it would become, "More and more I am worthy for prosperity."

        When you feel more assured that the affirmation will manifest (when it seems more truthful than pie-in-the-sky wishful), you can drop the "more and more" section.

        Does your intuition sense this idea will help?

        1. Daniel, I learned the "more and more" technique from Bellaruth Naparstek, a social worker and producer of guided imagery audio programs.

      2. I would never view an affirmation as an order, but an autosuggestion. The problem with affirmations like you suggest is there are speaking of the future. I find it works better to affirm things in the present tense, as though they are already done. That makes stronger programming for my subconscious mind.

        1. Agree with both Randy and Lynn here Daniel. Affirming something in the future tense suggests to your subconscious it will always be "in your future". Affirming in the present sends the message to the Universe, hence it has to happen - providing you take the action towards it as well.

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